Information should be communicated with caution, both because the circumstances of an individual’s death may be subject to an investigation, and to be sensitive to the needs of close family and friends. The bereaved family may not want the manner of death disclosed. Your organisation will need to decide what to tell employees about the death, in consultation with the employee’s family, who may have strong views about whether it was or wasn’t a suicide. The suicide may not be confirmed for several weeks or months, following an inquest where the coroner has to legally confirm the cause of death, and so any formal mention of the death should refer to ‘suspected suicide’. Any communication should definitely not mention the method of suicide.
As a manager, whether or not the person worked in your team, you will need to take a sensitive approach and ensure that communication is effectively handled in your team. Think carefully about the way you choose to communicate; different approaches may be needed for different individuals. For example, if a team member was close to the employee who has died by suicide, it’s better to have the conversation in person, where you can show empathy and support, and signpost to expert help where needed.
If some details have already been informally discussed by employees, this will need sensitive handling. It may be necessary to contain the flow of any rumours or misinformation, as these can quickly circulate to fill any vacuum in communication. This should include giving employees guidance on taking care with their use of social media.
Everyone’s experience of grief is different, but for people bereaved by a suicide it can be particularly complicated, with feelings of shame, guilt, rejection, isolation, trauma and even a sense of responsibility. The sudden nature of the death can add to the feeling of shock some people may feel. Make sure your team knows how to access the support available to them such as OH and EAPs, if they are available, and/or help employees to access external support services such as Samaritans and other charities.
It’s also possible that bereaved employees will experience more general poorer mental health, or their grief could exacerbate pre-existing issues. You will need to be particularly mindful and considerate of any individuals whom you know may already be vulnerable and need additional support.
You need to feel comfortable having – and show empathy during - sensitive conversations. But you can't take on the role of counsellor, or be an expert on the grieving process. Just understand that everyone’s experience of grief and loss is different, and it can be a long process. The type of support needed should be based on individual need, as everyone is likely to be impacted differently. Consider also the practical support they may need. This may simply mean giving people the space and time to take breaks when needed to deal with the news and support each other. It could also include time off through the organisation’s compassionate leave policy to attend a funeral (with the relatives’ permission) and/or to support the grieving process, depending on the individual circumstances, as well as ongoing flexibility to help people balance work with their grief. You should know how to accommodate any leave requests and how to manage any absence in line with your organisation’s sickness absence and return-to-work processes.
People experience bereavement and grief in different ways and will need different responses and support. As a manager, try to be as flexible as possible, and remember to:
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be sensitive to requests for time off, especially around anniversaries and other special events
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consider a phased return to work
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be open to ongoing flexible working provisions.
It’s important to understand that different cultures grieve, practise mourning rituals and respond to death in significantly different ways. Attitudes to suicide can also vary across different religions and faiths. You may need to have sensitive conversations with employees to check whether their religion or culture requires them to observe any particular practices or make special arrangements and explore what extra support would be helpful.
Some teams find benefit in having debriefing sessions. These may be facilitated by an external person, such as a bereavement specialist or counsellor, to help members of a team talk about their experiences, and to provide an opportunity to reflect on, and develop, a positive mental health culture.
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